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Sidecars.

No not the little extra glass that the bartender gives you when you order a mixed drink, but the friend or friends who are with the girl that you are interested in or hitting on at a bar or club.

They can make or break your success in a matter of seconds. The annoying thing is that 99% of the time they aren’t deserving or even close to deserving this power. But they have it, so we have to deal with it.

The first step in dealing with sidecars is being able to classify them. And I think I have come up with a pretty solid way to classify sidecars that has not failed me yet. In my opinion, sidecars fall into one of three categories: The Above, The Equal, and The Below.

Let’s start with The Above. At first these girls usually act like spoiled bitches who aren’t worth their weight in water. They might open up later, and usually do, but they give rotten first impressions. I classify them as “The Above” because, for whatever reason, they foolishly think that they are above every element of the moment. The Above Sidecars are usually either rich, very good looking, in a relationship, spoiled, or just stuck up in general. Louis Vuitton bags and “sophisticated” drinks are usually a good tip-off that you’re dealing with an Above Sidecar. So where does this leave you?

There you are, a stud, at the bar with your friend(s) and you spot your girl of interest, and her sidecar. Now whatever approach you take, whether it be approaching her right away, or be it some solid eye contact from a distance with a smile, if the girl notices it, then odds are the sidecar will notice too, and comment about it.

Now you might get lucky and the sidecar might give her friend a nod of approval, but with The Above, that's not likely. The sidecar has probably been feeding her friend negativity the whole night saying things like “There’s no cute guys here,” or “This place is so dirty,” or “Let’s go somewhere else.” And dealing with THAT is your biggest challenge. So what do you do? Well here’s what I do.

The first step is to differentiate yourself from your average run-of-the-mill jabroni hitting on girls at the bar. I would go up to them, either by slowly making my way, or just a direct approach, and say something unexpected and funny that shows a lack of intimidation. Now whatever you say, I always make sure to look at both of them, but give a majority of the solid eye contact to the one I’m interested in. This will let both girls know two things for sure. They will know that you have confidence, and they will know which one of the two you are interested in.

So what do you say? Well it depends on the place, but if the sidecar is drinking a mixed drink, I’ll say something like “So what’s that a cranberry and tonic? Yea that zero proof shit gets you drunk as hell. Na I’m just kidding. . . I know it’s cranberry and sprite.” It’s poking fun in a harmless way and it shows a lack of intimidation. And the beauty of that exact line is that once you make the initial joke, “cranberry and tonic”, and then say “I’m just kidding”, the girls think, “Ok now he’s reverting back to wuss mode which is right where I want him because he’s not good enough anyway,” but then you come back with another unexpected zing.

That’s only one of my many lines, and let me tell you, that one gets a smile. It will usually draw a reaction like “Umm no. Actually this is a cranberry and Grey Goose thank you very much.” To which you can reply something like “Yea Grey Goose, I heard a lot of girls are drinking that now because its very easy to drink. Girls have a tough time with vodka.” You say this with a smile of course so that they know that you’re light hearted in your jabs. Now at this point one of two things have happened. Either both girls have realized your sense of humor and are making more eye contact, smiling more, playing with their hair, and giving you an overall sense of acceptance, or they’re still on the fence as to whether or not you are worth a shit. In ANY case you cut it short. You say your name, maybe ask theirs, then say you have to get back to your friends, or to the bar, or whatever. This gives the girls time to talk about how funny, hot, and confident you are, and it tells them that you are not obsessing over them. You’re there with your friends, you just stopped by them to talk for 5 minutes, and now you’re back with your friends.

There’s nothing that women hate more than a leach. Unless that leach is buying them drinks, but even that won’t last long.

And if these girls are talking about you, what is the first thing that they are going to do? They are going to take glances at you, but guess what? You’re already back with your friends having a good time without them. And when you show a woman something that she can have, then take it away. . . that’s when things happen. Once again.

When you show a woman something that she can have, then take it away. . . that’s when things happen. Good things.

That’s when she starts to want you more. And that’s when her sidecar starts to realize that you are something special. ANY guy can crack a joke to break the ice, but it takes a special stud to crack a joke, make girls laugh, show interest in one of them, then leave on a high note and leave them wanting more.

So from this point on I’m not going to advise you specifically. All that I can say is that you manned up and showed confidence with a sense of humor. Keep it up. Don’t get soft if you see her checking you out or approaching you. Don’t get discouraged if other guys talk to your girl, because they probably didn’t do as good of a job as you did. And the MOST important thing is to be aware of her signals. She might leave her friend under the pretense of going to the bar, and make eye contact with you, telling you to come talk to her, possibly exchange numbers, e-mails whatever, so be on point.

To summarize. When you notice an Above Sidecar, act above. Don’t act snobby, but act above the herd of jabronis who are circling the bar with popped collars and way too much gel. Girls notice the difference right away. Playful humor at the girls’ expense with extreme confidence is all it takes.

For how to deal with the next type of sidecar, I’ll tackle it in my next article. Until then, if you ain’t wearing THIS SHIT, then you ain’t wearing SHIT.

Stud On,
Anthony D