If you have a system that works for you then great, I’m just going to give you my opinion and my technique.

So when one of my buddies gets a hot chick’s phone number and asks me how long he should wait to call her I always say the same thing, “It doesn’t matter.” Because it really doesn’t.

With the standard “wait 3 days” technique, I think by now girls know what your doing. They know that you’re trying to act too cool or too busy to call her right away. Now it might work anyway, but why give the girl the satisfaction of figuring even that little bit of your game out?

Depending on the situation, when I get a girl's phone number at a bar/club I usually call her at one of three times: that same night when I’m leaving the bar, a few days later, or a few hours before the next time I go out. So I’m just going to give you some pointers as to how I handle each of the 3 situations, and also what to do if you bump into the girl before you’ve called her.

So sometimes you’re either really horny, or really wasted and you want to try to get with the girl that very same night. Nothing wrong with that. There is one key word to remember when calling a girl the same night. . . brevity. Keep it quick. If you drag on a conversation then odds are that it’s going to get awkward and girls HATE feeling awkward. I’ll call up and say something like, “blah blah this is Anthony what you up to? (she answers something stupid) Yea well you want me to pick you up I’m off to [grab a bite here, chill at my boy’s place, go to this other bar (whatever)] If she says no in one way or another, you have 5 seconds to hang up the phone with your testicles in tact or else you sound DESPERATE. So I finish up like “Aight yo have fun I’ll call you later.” Done.

You did a lot of things at once here. You got your name in her mind, your number in her phone, you showed her that you remembered her, you offered to pick her up (or meet her depending on the situation) and you did NOT sound desperate. When girls get a quick call like that they wonder what you are doing that’s so important that you cut the call off so suddenly (unless they’re so wasted that they’re in the car with some ogre with a popped collar). All these things are good. They set up your next call which I would probably give 2-3 days later.

Now if you genuinely forget, or just put off calling this girl for a few days, that’s ok too. I mean the girl might have given her number to 5 other guys that night, so she might have forgotten completely (unlikely, but possible). Suppose I meet a chick on a Saturday night, then on say Wednesday I’ll call up and say something like, “hey this is Anthony from [name of bar] what you up to? (response) yea well me and my boys are off to [some place] on friday you should come with your girls or whatever”, (she’ll probably say maybe, or I’ll see, some stupid shit like that), at this point in my mind I know I want to rap it up, but I want to sign off on a good note so I’ll probably make her laugh once before hanging up with a reference to something from Saturday night or whatever, then rap it up with “Alright I’m meeting my friends to eat so I’ll call you in a few days, talk to you later.” Something like that.

So here you did a lot of the same things as in the first situation but with a little bit more respect. You got your name in her head, your number in her phone, you kept it short so as to not sound desperate. I mean as soon as you hang up with her you have 100 other chicks to call right?? Well maybe not but she doesn’t know, and thats how you need to act, that's how you spark her intrigue. Make her feel like she’s might have to work a little bit too.

Also you showed some respect by assuming that she might have plans for that night already, so you’re checking with her in advance. And finally. . . you called her when you were (probably) sober so as to not indicate to her that the phone call was a booty call, like the first scenario is. Girls notice all of these things. And who knows, there’s a small possibility that the girl might call you back wasted some night after a conversation like this, seeing what your doing, or for whatever reason.

Notice that again, the key is “brevity.” Keep it short, use your words carefully so that they have some value, and end it before this girl has the chance to feel awkward.

And the last scenario of mine is when I’m either pregaming, or just chillin, about to go out and I give a girl a call. It basically goes the same way, I say whatup, remind her who I am, see what she’s up to, quickly tell her what I’m doing and to give me a call later if she wants to chill and then the conversation is over. If you drag out your first ever phone conversation with her, then she’s not going to look forward to talking to you on the phone, and that’s a huge hurdle.

So if you meet up with the girl after calling at one of these 3 times then great, if not then just repeat the process the next week until you get an obvious hint in one direction or the other, such as a girl never picking up or calling you back (I’ll let this happen twice then not call again), or in the other direction, like if the girl gives you a more positive vibe.

Now what if you run into the girl before you had a chance to call her? I’m going to tell you one of my favorite lines that I say with a harmless yet smug look on my face. Once she sees me I’ll go up to her and say, “I haven’t called you yet so you’re following me around? OK fine, I give in, I’ll talk to you” something like that. Don’t sound too arrogant, but a touch of humor with a bit of confidence is key. She’ll definitely remember you from now on. She might try that shit where she acts like she doesn't remember you, in which case I make up a fake name and walk away. She'll usually follow with, "Your name's not Eduardo, it's Anthony!" Which I rebut with, "I guess your memory finally kicked in," again with a little smile.

So in general remember these 3 things,

1. It doesn’t matter when you call the girl,

2. Keep it as short as possible without looking like a jackass, and

3. It’s not what you say but how you say it, a smile and a touch of confidence lets the doors of opportunity open wide.

So remember those 3 things, and remember that you ain't a Stud unless you got One Of These.

Stud On,
Anthony D