usually end up falling into one of four categories (we’ll go from the worst possible scenario to the best possible scenario). She
will be either: a girl you rarely speak to and just see in passing, a girl you see regularly on campus and out at night, a girl who you talk to regularly and establish a friendship with, or finally a girl you get drunk with all the time and/or have a sexual encounter or two with.

One of the beauties of college is that you can pretty much guarentee that if you see a girl once, you’ll see her again. Whether it be in class, in passing, at a bar, at a party, whatever. So yea you could take haphazard attempts at getting her, not caring where your cue ball ends up. Or better yet you could focus on the fact that, like it or not, you’re going to build up a reputation with this girl that she’s going to remember you by, and tell her friends about. So you need to make sure that each run in you have with her sets up favorable conditions for the next time you run into her. This simple philosophy is what I claim helped me be very successful with women during college. So let me explain it in detail.

Think back to moving day this past year. You probably moved all of your stuff into your new dorm room, said whatup to your boys for about 3 seconds, then immediately started checking out the females also moving in. You start to think to yourself. “I’ll get that girl, she lives right across the hall” or “oh well I can definitely get that girl, she’s on my floor” or “she’s in my building” or “she was checkin me out.” Sound familiar? I know that I was thinking those thoughts on
every moving day at New York University.

If you let your anxiety get the best of you and try to mack each chick you see that day, then for the next four years there’s a good chance that you’ll be labeled as the cheeseball who tried to get an 18 year old girl’s phone number on the first day of school. Attractive college girls meet and talk to hundreds of people their first week of school, and most likely she’s going to remember each person by what kind of first impression he/she made on her.

“Ohh yea, you’re the guy who was moving that beerpong table into room 406 right?” or “Ohh yea you were those guys blasting Metallica on moving day.” Does this sound familiar? It should. Every year I would find that I was instantly labeled for the first part of each year, by the first impression a girl had of me. So what do you do if you see a hottie in your dorm? How do you take shots that will set up your next? I’m going to tell you.

Let’s start by discussing the first type of girl you’ll encounter. The good looking girl who you rarely speak to and see in passing, yet wouldn’t mind getting back to your room when your roomate isn’t there. Now let’s think logically here for a minute. There HAS to be a reason why you have little communication with her. Maybe she found a niche in a group of friends in another building, maybe she has a boyfriend that she spends a lot of time with, maybe she’s just shy in general, whatever the case might be it’s not that important because your actions have to be the same. Here is what I would do.all the time when I bumped into a girl of this type. I would do or say something that would communicate to the girl that I’m a nice guy, but very busy at the moment. I would say something like.

“Hey X how’s it going? Yea? Well listen I’m about to [whatever] but you should get drunk with us sometime I really gotta go.” And I know this might sound weird, but most of the time I wouldn’t even have a place to go but I would walk outside of the building, go to the store, or just go for a little walk and be back 10 minutes later.

Doing this does many things at once. First off when the girl sees you coming from a distance, she’s thinking to herself, “Ehhh, this is one of those random guys I never know what to say to.” So you beat her to the punch and say hi, smile and make some nice eye contact with her. Now she thinks, “Is this guy gonna talk my ear off and try to get me to hang out with him and his loser friends?” But you beat her to that too by demonstrating how busy you are, and that you have things going on that have nothing to do with her. Now here is the most important part.

At the end as you’re walking away you say “get drunk with us sometime” and you DON’T EVEN WAIT to hear or see her response. You’re already 5 feet away, walking away. That’s the most important thing to remember. Act like you don’t care one way or another what she’s got going on. When she realizes that you don’t care, which she will right away, that’s when you’ve sparked her interest. One of these nights her curiosity will get the best of her and make her want to see exactly what is so cool that you’re doing that you don’t even care if a nice looking girl is there or not.

I’ve gotten more girls to come to dorm parties that way rather than sounding like the 100000 losers who say to her everyday, “We’re throwing this REALLY cool party in room 202, come by!” Well if it’s really cool, then why are you trying to recruit random people to come? My way, the girl knows that her presence is irrelevant to the coolness that you live amongst day to day.

So notice that what you’ve done here is you put your cue ball in perfect position for the next shot. The next time you see this girl in passing, you’re no longer the random guy who she doesn’t want to talk to, but rather the guy who was planning something important and didn’t have time for her. I would generally keep this up one or two more times, so that when you finally have a minute or two for her, she’ll see it as a reward. And that was the goal. You transformed her from being a girl who you have minimal communication with, to a girl who will look forward to seeing you. Mission accomplished, now go from there.

Now the next type of girl is a little trickier. The next type of girl you might
encounter is the hot chick that you see regularly on campus and see out at night all the time, and actually chit chat a little with. You have to be a little more careful with this type because odds are, she knows more about you then the girl in the hallway did. Think about it. This girl has a good idea of who your friends are (because she sees you regularly) and has a good idea of what kind of antics you and your friends are up to (because she sees you out all the time). With a girl like this, if you just invent things that you’re doing, and act busy all the time, she might see right through it. For example if you told her that the following night you were busy with your boys throwing a big party, and then she sees you at the same bar with 2 friends the following night, you’re now a loser with no credibility. So what do you do for this type of chick?

For this type I would always concentrate on letting the girl know that I was not at that bar to talk to her. She’s just like any of my other friends who just happen to be there that night. It’s the subtelties that make this one work. For instance if I found myself in a conversation with this girl, it’s very simple what kid of things I would do. I would check out other girls who were passing by (not in a rude manner though, just with a little smile), look away at other random things in the bar, yell back to my boys about anything, check the time, you get the point. ALL girls want to feel like they are at the center of your attention, ESPECIALLY while you’re talking to them. And it drives them nuts when they aren’t. So it sparks
their curiosity as to why you, a random guy, have no interest in giving her, a hot chick, your attention.

And another thing. If you check out another girl walking by (not in a rude
manner, just very casually and quickly) then it tells the girl that she isn’t enough for you. You’re basically treating her like one of your friends. Girls love trapping guys in the friend zone, but they HATE being trapped in it. They want out.

So in this scenario you let the girl know that her presence in the bar is irrelevant, and unimportant to you. This sets up your cue ball. The next time she sees you out, she’s going to be wondering if she’s still undeserving of your full attention, and she’s going to want to know how to get it. Who knows what she’ll do for it. She might not show it yet, but she’ll be thinking it. You went from being the random guy that she sees all the time and has meaningless chit chat with, to the guy that didn’t even find her the least bit interesting.

So I’d usually string a girl along like this for minimum of 2-3 different nights
before actually having a nice chat with her and putting the games aside the next time we bumped into each other. And ohhh will she be listening to EVERY word you say, trying to figure you out, searching for clues as to what’s so special about you. It’s a great feeling when this happens, you’ll see.

Now onto the next type of girl, and the type that I consider the hardest to get. The one that you’re friends with. So in this case, instead of doing the trappng, you have been trapped in the friend zone, and you want out. You routinely see this girl, you’re nice to her, you talk, you eat together, maybe you have a class together, you pretend you care about her problems, you learn a lot about her, but really what you want is for her mini-skirt to be crumpled up by your bed. The most important realization that you can make to yourself with this type of girl is that you most likely will not hook up with her from inside the friend zone. Just like in Monopoly, you cannot collect money from your property while in jail, you need to get out first. But getting out right away is rare, it usually takes some time.
Now I’m not saying that having female friends is bad, they can be nice to have, but in the case where you just need more, here’s one approach.

Here’s how I deal with a girl like this, that I’m trapped in the friend zone with. Step One, you have to make sure that she sees you in your element. You want her to see that you act differently when you’re with your friends. With her you’re a good listener, your nice, blah blah, but with your boys you’re popular, loud, cocky, funny, all the things that you’re NOT when you talk to her. So she’ll witness you in your element and she’ll just keep that in the back of her mind. Now here’s the key move.

Step Two: you have to slowly and smoothly switch from acting how you do around her to how you act around your boys. If you make this transition to quickly, like in a day or a week, she’ll see right through it and think you just all of the sudden became a jerk, you need to have discipline and do it slowly.

Now what’ll happen is that she’ll start to get the message that you are tired of being all soft with her and you’re turning back to your “normal” cocky, funny self. So slowly, you work your way out of the mushy friend zone, into the zone of her being some chick that you see only when your in your element.

Step Three, your cue ball is set. You’ve changed your relationship to one
similiar to the first two types of girls we’ve discussed and you’ll be able to apply all the other tactics already mentioned.

I have seen TONS of guys in college try to mack from the friend zone, and
RARELY does it work (barring large amounts of alcohol). If you make a move from the friend zone, then she’ll most likely come back with “Ohh you’re so cute, but we’re just friends, I like our relationship how it is blah blah stuff you don’t wanna hear.” You need to get out first.

Now if you just switch to being cocky, loud, and popular when you’re with her, then she’ll think it’s just an act. You need her to “pop in” or “stop by” while you’re already in your element, and paying minimal attention to her, so that she sees that you are unaffected by her, that is key. Let me repeat that. She has to see that the fact that you are cocky, funny, loud, and popular is completely unaffected by her.

So after you do this successfully, this girl switches from being a friend, to being a girl that you treat with your studly, nonchalant ways like the first 2 types of girls we discussed. Everyone lands in the friend zone with a hottie, getting out takes discipline and patience. It took Andy Dufrasne a very long time to tunnel out of Shawshank, he didn’t rush it. So take your time and do it right. The slow and steady change is what you need.

It’s worked for me many times, so it can work for you. God knows, these moves take practice. You might lose a female fan or two along the way, but hey, we all do, treat it like batting practice.

And finally let’s discuss the last type of girl. The girl who you, for some reason or another, get drunk with, chill with when you’re with your boys, and possibly have had a sexual encounter with. What I say to this is, “Perfect.” These girls are the most fun to be around, they don’t expect you to put on a show for them, and they’re usually the most genuine. So obviously you did something right to land in this situation, so I say, why ruin a good thing with tons of advice? As Joe Dirt would say, “Just keep on, keepin on.”

Everything I’ve told you has worked for me. But we’re all different, so feel free to fine tune and adjust your game accordingly, just keeping the main points the same. And remember:

Set up favorable conditions for future encounters. Don’t only focus on the shot at hand. Focus on making a good shot every time, while setting up your cue ball for the next shot.

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Anthony D.